How to stop others from expecting from you

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There are two types of expectations that weigh on our shoulders. The first ones represent what we want for ourselves and the second is what others want for us.

If someone expects you to be a certain way, then that expectation may or may not be good for you. It depends on the person’s motivation and intentions. When someone expects something from you, it could either make them happy or angry when things don’t work out the way they wanted.

Often times, people put pressure on each other to be something they aren’t, by trying to demand that others live up to their expectations of them. This can lead to resentment in relationships or burnout in careers.

How to reject others’ expectations of you:

It is important to learn how to reject expectations and it is equally important for us to accept that we can’t always live up to what people expect from us. In order not to let the people around us make our life miserable, we should be willing to reject their expectations of us.

As a society, we have had a long term of putting expectations on people to fit in, be perfect and even lead the pack.

It is important for people to realise that they are not obligated to someone’s idea of what they should be, even if that someone if a parent. As long as wee try our best in all departments of life, then it should not be okay for others to try and push us to do more or achieve greater than we can.

We live in a society where some people want to be put on pedestals, admired or even celebrated by others to please their ego. These people may try to achieve the most or do whatever it takes to see the look of pride and appreciation on others’ faces.

Sometimes this can be a good motivation to do more indeed. However, when external factors get involved and we cannot reach these expectations then we may think that we failed in life and have that affect our mental health immensely.

The reality is that we should reject others’ expectations of us, regardless of whether we plan on working hard to reach them or not. We should not be afraid to show our flaws and limitations and make others understand that it’s not always possible to overachieve and thrive when we’re scared of failing. When we’re too concerned about whether we succeed or not then we will have more chances of getting distracted from our goals and fail royally.

The consequences of letting others put expectations of you:

Reasons why others put expectations on you:

– Want your good

– Believe in you

– Have high standards

– Think it will motivate you

When you fail to meet others expectations of you:

The idea of always having to meet someone’s expectations isn’t a healthy one. It can lead to feelings shame or guilt if you don’t meet the expectation set by others. In the workplace, there are often expectations of how people should act and perform tasks. If you don’t meet those expectations, it can make you feel bad or rejected even though that was not the intention.

It is important to learn how to cope with labels and what your limits are. When you feel like something is out of your reach, it is important to take a step back and think about what’s going on before giving up on yourself entirely.

When people see your failures and rejections as a sign of your limitations, it can be difficult to recover from them and move on in the future. It is best if you can recognize this and act accordingly. If you do not want to disappoint someone, try your best not to give false promises not let them think you can do something that you’re not sure about.

Expectations lie in the minds of everyone. We all have them, and we need to be aware that they exist. If we let our negative expectations and self-doubts affect our lives, then they will take control of us.

The intentions of people that expect from you:

We all have expectations from people that we come into contact with on a daily basis. There are times when the expecting person can be a parent that want you to do well for yourself or a relative that expect you to lose weight / marry soon / excel in your career, etc. This type of expectations can be perceived to be quite rude, but we have to keep in mind that most times people mean no harm at all.

One of the most difficult things about socialising with distant family relatives or the stereotypical “aunties” is that they can be rude and want something from you without giving anything back; appreciation, effort, or kindness. While these types of people are nothing more than an annoyance sometimes, you have to understand that they are trying to stop you from becoming like them or from failing in departments of life that they may failed in.

Bottom line:

It is not your fault that you don’t want to do what other people expect you to do. It is also not your fault if they reject you because of it – they just have unrealistic expectations. Keep in mind that the only thing that should matter is whether or not it will make you happy and empower you as an individual.

There are many times where people set high expectations for you, but that doesn’t mean you should meet those expectations. There is a difference between how other people see you and how you see yourself.

One way to think about this is to consider how others view your personality as a whole. If they view your personality as outgoing and charismatic, it may be best to accept their opinion of you. These people may truly think that you’re amazing and can achieve anything you put your mind to.

If, on the other hand, they think you’re not good enough and fail at every task you’re given, then they’re probably just bullying you by expecting more from you. The type of people may secretly know you will not be able to achieve the things they expect but don’t mind giving you a hard time nonetheless.

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