It can be hard not to feel anger or resentment over an argument with someone that you love but it is important not to hurt their feelings. Instead, take a few minutes to reflect on the situation or to manage your anger in the 4 ways listed below.
Anger management is something many people struggle with but there are plenty of ways to deal with it so that no one gets hurt.
The first step is to pull back from the situation and let go of your anger. It is easy to get caught up in a heated argument with someone you love and it could lead to hurt feelings on both sides, which are not healthy for your relationship.
There is a variety of ways to manage anger in an argument, which we will list in this article. However, there are also some things that you should avoid doing in order to ensure that you keep your emotions and anger under control and that you don’t hurt your loved ones in an unforgivable way.
Things you should avoid doing in an argument:
-Swearing, insulting your loved one, calling them names or mocking them.
-Becoming physical or getting your anger out in a physical way like breaking something or by using violence.
-Screaming very loud in an attempt to cause negative emotions for the other person like fear and panic.
Ways to manage your anger in a positive way:
It is important for those with angry tendencies always to remember that their loved ones care for them and about their wellbeing and happiness. It is important to remember that they’re not the enemy and whatever they did or said that triggered the anger and violent ways is not worth such a big reaction.
Some way that you can deal with violent urges or extreme anger during arguments are:
1- Breathing exercises:
Breathe deeply from your nose. Our bodies are programmed to feel under pressure and stressed when we start breathing for our mouths. Try to take long inhalation from your nose and to expire from your nose too, in an attempt to calm yourself down.
2- Walk away:
Walk away from the situation for 5 minutes or as long as it takes for your mind to cool down and your blood to stop boiling. Look into your loved ones eyes and try to remember how much you don’t want to hurt them.
Walk away and tell them you’ll be back when you’re ready to discuss the matter calmly, and with logic. If you’re trying to avoid hurting your loved ones and yourself in an argument, the first thing you should do is not to jump into a fight when your anger is at its peak. Sometimes it’s better to walk away from the situation or take a break.
It is often a great way to reduce the intensity of anger and realise that it’s not personal. Meditation and coming up with strategies for how you want your anger to end are just two examples of methods that can help you manage your anger effectively without hurting someone else’s feelings in the process.
Sometimes, people who get mad easily might be triggered by the tone of your voice or your facial expression. That’s why sometimes it helps to take a break from the conversation and go do some meditation for a little bit.
Focusing your eyes on other things like trees or even the ceiling or the blue sky or even a nocturne sky will be a lot better than reading the expressions of anger, disgust and pain on your loved one’s face.
These can trigger you in a bad way when in then end, they don’t mean anything as the other person’s anger is probably temporary too and they still love and care for you in the long run.
4- Remind yourself of what matters:
Remembering that a loved one does not mean to hurt feelings. Asking someone what they might be feeling during an argument can help ease tension and understanding. The first step is remembering that your loved one does not mean to cause harm and you don’t want to hurt their feelings either.
You should also remember that communication is a two-way street and it should be focused on how the other person feels about you in the long-term rather than in that specific moment.
When we are in the midst of an argument, it is easy to lose perspective and get angry. In these moments, it is important to remember that our loved ones don’t mean to hurt us and don’t want to see us upset. Shifting our focus away from the argument can help us feel better about the situation.
Arguments can evoke a lot of emotions in people, such as anger and frustration. These feelings can be difficult to manage especially when they are directed at loved ones. When we find ourselves becoming angry with someone during an argument, it’s important to remember the ways listed above and to try and to practice each.
Arguing is a part of human nature that we all do. It’s also said that arguing is healthy as long as you are not hurting each other’s feelings and it’s not something you want to get into lightly by yourself.