Being a good husband starts with understanding what makes your significant other happy. It’s not about doing everything they want or need, but rather finding out what it is that they want and being attentive to their needs, first.
There are a lot of things that wives want from their husbands. They want their husbands to be caring, loving, and appreciative. If you want to be a better husband, you need to make sure you have these qualities in your life. Being the best husband is not easy. It requires time and effort to understand what your wife needs are, how she thinks, what her fears and worries and how she feels about certain things.
It’s easy to tell your wife that you love her or that you appreciate her but being able to show it in the right way is not always as simple.
5 steps to be the best husband ever:
If you want to make your wife feel loved and appreciated, then try these 5 life changing tips for good husband behaviour:
Tip 1: Communication:
Sometimes a simple yet overlooked solution is communication. Husbands are not always good at expressing their emotions and understanding how their wives feel. They often struggle with being affectionate, which can make their wives feel neglected.
If you want to be a better husband, here are some ways to express yourself and understand your wife’s feelings:
– Express your feelings in a way that she can easily understand,
– Make sure she is happy by making her smile or laugh,
– Be more affectionate,
– Ask her what she likes and dislikes in your relationship (& LISTEN TO HER!),
– What makes her happy,
– What makes her angry, etc.
The more you communicate, the closer you become. It is important to be open and honest with your wife. Let her know that she matters and that you care for her. Having these conversations will also improve your relationship in other ways too – such as being able to resolve conflict, share feelings, and ask for what you need.
Tip 2: Be Romantic:
Many husbands are guilty of forgetting how important romance is after they get married. They think that because they have someone who loves them unconditionally, they don’t need to do anything special anymore.
This is not true at all! After a woman gets married, she may be vulnerable in many ways. She has now put herself at a high risk of getting betrayed by you, cheated on, abandoned and publicly in front of anyone. You’re not just any other guy she has dated before. You’re now her spouse and this comes with great responsibility.
She might need reassurance, love, protection and security. So, it is important for a husband to be romantic and show his wife affection, in order to make sure that she feels secure and loved. One way of doing this is being more creative in the ways you show your wife that she is still desirable and wanted.
This will not only make her feel loved but also create some quality time and beautiful unforgettable moments, for you two. The way you make your wife feel is what makes her feel loved and appreciated. It’s also the thing that will make her fall in love with you; again and again.
Here are some ideas for how a husband can show his love:
– Plan a romantic date night with your wife and then surprise her with something she loves like flowers, jewellery or even just taking her out to dinner in your favourite restaurant.
– Go on a hike or bike ride together, or even just go for a walk around your home, while holding hands.
– Buy her flowers every day of the week and then surprise her with them; when you come home from work for at least one week continuously.
Tips 3: Discuss your finances honestly:
In the 21st century, it is difficult to imagine a marriage without financial discussions. It is not easy for either partner to be completely honest about their finances. When it comes to finances, husbands and wives often have different opinions. Some couples feel like they should keep their financial secrets; from each other while other couples like to be completely transparent.
This is a difficult topic for many couples but it is important that they work together to create a plan and make sacrifices if needed in order for them to be happy in the long run. Studies have shown financial honesty is an important part of a successful marriage.
From a husbands point of view, they should aim to be open and honest with their wives about their finances; as they are the anchor to the relationship. By being open about their financial situation they can work together in a realistic way; to improve their situation inevitably allowing the wife to have a sense of trust in her spouse.
A final advice is that you shouldn’t stress about your finances, its not worth it! Work together with your spouse and make sacrifices where needed. Tell each other clearly what you expect from one another financially and be supportive of the breadwinner out of the two of you, rather than in competition with one another or secretly jealous. Make a plan for your future and stick to it!
Tip 4: When Arguing- Try understand your Wife’s point of view:
Let’s be honest- in any marriage arguments are inevitable. We are sure you’ve been in a heated argument with your partner, before. Maybe you shouted at them and they yelled back at you. Or maybe they walked out of the room; when you started yelling, which is honestly a smart move.
Either way, it wasn’t pleasant, but we are willing to bet that it didn’t last long either. We want to focus on ways in which husbands can be more understanding, and make their wives feel better during arguments. We are not saying that you need to change your personality, but that you need to understand what your wife is going through and how she feels.
The first step is to listen. Listen without interrupting or shouting or becoming aggressive in any way. It is important to be calm and to try to understand what your wife is saying. This will help you get the point of view of the other person.
– When she says “You always do this!” think about why she might be angry with you. What could she be feeling?
– When she says “You’re always so mean!” consider why that would make her feel upset. What’s going on in her life?
In the future, when you start an argument with your wife, try listening to what she has to say and to understand her point of view. If you can’t do that, try putting yourself in her shoes. This will help you see things from the perspective of your wife and will help get through the argument quicker. This will prevent something small from becoming bigger than it should; and it may resolve many conflicts in a peaceful way which will improve your marriage.
If you have anger issues that always cause a lot of heartbreak and drama in your marriage, then check out our article on how to better manage your anger in an argument!
Tip 5: Be Supportive:
It’s not always easy to be a supportive husband. But with the right attitude, you can make it work. A supportive husband is someone who takes interest in what his wife likes, encourages her, puts her needs before his own and listens to her.
A supportive husband should take care of his wife physically and emotionally; through physical support and emotional encouragement. In order to be supportive, the husband should do the following:
– Makes sure that he supports her financially and emotionally.
– Encourages her to pursue what she loves and try new things.
– Listens to her and hear what she has to say about how she feels about everything that’s going on in their lives.
– Give physical support when she is feeling down or sad.
The Bottom line:
Being a better husband is an act of self-development and love. It shows that you are willing to improve and do anything for your wife. It is not just about being more attentive or showing more love, it is also about being a better person.
It may sound silly to some, but being a better husband can have a significant impact on your relationship and marriage. It will make her feel secure and fortunate for having you in her life; as well as develop more love for you.
In turn, this will lead to a stronger bond between the two and allow a husband to be “the best possible husband ever” in his wifes eyes.