We can’t always predict what life will throw at us. And sometimes we have to cope with the unexpected. For example, infertility is a very common issue that can be really hard to deal with. It’s not something that many people talk about, but it’s a reality for millions of people all over the world.
The first step is to try and find out the cause of your infertility. Once you know what’s causing it, you can start exploring different treatment options and coping strategies that might help you feel more in control of your situation.
However, if you tried all that and none of it worked then what’s next? You also deserve some closure and to move on with life rather than being stuck in a problem forever.
5 ways to cope with not being able to have a baby:
1- Understand that it is not your fault:
It is important to remember that there is nothing wrong with you if you do not have a child and that it is normal for some people to never be able to have children. Not all of us are meant to assume that responsibility and it is okay. It doesn’t mean that you would have not been the best parent on earth, nor that someone decided that you shouldn’t be given the chance to be one.
It just means that it is not meant to happen now. So it may not be your time yet, or maybe you are meant to be focused on yourself, your partner, marriage, or other things during this phase in your life. Having babies or kids, in general, is a lifelong commitment, and not having any can sometimes be a blessing in disguise. Think about how much time you have to travel, do the things you want and focus on your wants and needs first and before anything or anyone else without feeling guilty.
It can be hard when you are surrounded by people who are pregnant or have children, but it is important to remember that you are still loved and valued by your friends and family.
2- You can still adopt:
Coping with not having a baby is difficult, but it doesn’t have to be. It’s important to keep in mind that you are still a person and that you deserve the same love and care as anyone else. It is also important to remember that there are other ways of becoming a parent, such as adoption or fostering.
So whenever you get tired of trying and think that you still want to have a little life companion to raise and share life with as your precious baby then you can still adopt. In fact, adoption is viewed by many as something that should be considered before pregnancy is even thought of.
There are many kids on earth that need warmth or a family, a nice home, a chance at having a good future, and a chance at making it in life. However, there are never given the chance as they grow in institutions, refugee centers, and other places that may have everything but the love, balance, certainty, security, and stability that a family and home give.
It is believed by many that the world doesn’t need new kids and babies when many already exist and are at a disadvantage. So if you are not capable of having a baby at this time, take it as an invitation to find a precious little one and to give him or her a fair chance at becoming the best version of themselves!
3- Keep trying but without focusing on it:
It’s very common for people to feel sad and disappointed when they don’t get pregnant. But there are many ways to cope with this. You can try to not think about it, you can talk to other people who have been through the same thing or you can just forget about it and not do anything else!
This way you keep trying with your partner; as in you don’t take anything to stop yourself from being able to become pregnant and when you expect it the least, it may just happen. The point is that you shouldn’t focus much on this and move on with your life rather than wait and obsessively track your menstrual cycle. Just forget about it and resort to the other options cited on this page, but without ever stopping trying.
One day when you expect it the least and when you may have already adopted a little one and moved one, you may find yourself informing your new family member that a sibling may be on the way!
This is why it is important that you have time for yourself, time to think and reflect on what you want in life.
It is not easy but it is important that you stay positive and keep trying. You will eventually get pregnant, but in the meantime, there are other things to be happy about, like being able to spend more time with your partner or eating chocolate!
4- Consult a specialist:
If you have been trying for a while, then it might be a good idea to consult a doctor. There might be some underlying factors that you may not have considered. It’s also worth considering that your partner may have an issue too.
If you have already consulted doctors and specialists and more than two confirmed that it won’t happen then it may be worth it to pay a visit to another type of specialist. In other words, try seeing someone to help you get over this sad news quickly if you feel it is affecting your mental health a lot.
All of us are different and get affected by things differently and accordingly with our motivations in life, priorities, and personalities. So if you feel this is something you cannot deal with without help then see a specialist and get therapy.
It is not uncommon for people to feel depressed, anxious, and stressed when they are not able to have a baby. It is important to see a specialist in order to get the help that you need.
5- Look at it from a different angle:
Now that you’re already in this situation, it must be hard for you to picture that there will be anyone on earth who willingly chooses not to be a parent. But, trust us there are millions of people that can get pregnant so easily and have all the favorable conditions to raise a balanced, happy, and fulfilled child but they choose not to.
For more evidence, check out our article where we help couples that can easily get pregnant decide whether having children is even a good idea or not.
So in the end, if you don’t want other people’s compassion, pity and judgments you can just pretend to them and even to your own self that you belong to the camp that wants no little monsters at all!
Having a baby is one of the most natural and beautiful things in the world. However, not everyone is blessed with this opportunity. For those who are struggling to get pregnant or those who are unable to have children, it can be difficult to cope with the situation.
If you are one of them then try the coping options cited in this article and try to move on from this life goal and set your mind and eyes on a different target soon!