After 6 weeks of dating, a lot of people may be wondering what to expect. The first month of dating is usually the most exciting and fun time. It can be a little awkward at times but it’s worth it in the end, especially if you turn out to have found a compatible partner.
So is it true that after one month and half of dating someone, you should know if they are a good fit, good enough for you, and where it is likely to go from there?
What to expect after a month and a half of dating:
Well, the short answer is yes! After 6 weeks, you should know if you want to continue dating or break up… Well, to some extent! You should have an idea!
Especially, if you were actually seeing each other often during this period of time, spending hours talking on the phone and dedicating time and energy to getting to know one another. In this case, if after 6 weeks you decide that you want to continue seeing your date, then you should tell them and ask what their expectations of the relationship are at that point.
1- Ask about your date’s expectations:
By now, they must have a clear idea about how they feel about you, so do not hesitate to expect answers rather than vague excuses and replies. If commitment is not on the horizon, and they just want to have fun then that’s okay provided that you want the same. However, if you two are not on the same page and have different wants and expectations, then be strong enough to consider breaking up amicably and moving on with your life while it’s still early and you’re not too involved or attached.
The first few dates are usually just you two getting to know each other and figuring out what kind of relationship you want to have going forward. After that, and precisely at the 6-week mark, you have to check and see if they made their mind up about what they want. It is all about finding common ground and discussing your expectations for the future. You may also discuss topics such as living arrangements, family situations, and financial goals.
2- Asses your feelings:
As you go through your first six weeks of dating, you will start to develop feelings for your new partner. If that happens, then it is great! However, it’s important that you test the waters and see how your partner is acting, how much love and affection they’re showing you, and whether they’re on the same page as you.
If you are not feeling the same way as your partner, it might be time to end things before things get too complicated.
It can be tempting to wait until the relationship has gone on for an extended period of time before making any decisions about it. But, this can be too long and you may miss out on a chance at happiness with someone else by waiting too long with the wrong person.
3- Check if your goals align:
After six weeks of dating, it’s time to check in and see if your goals, priorities in life, and core beliefs align. If they don’t, then you might find yourself stuck in a complicated and uncomfortable situation later on. If they don’t align, you’d have to take a step back and ask yourself what you want from the relationship. If the answer is not clear, it’s time to move on.
Check out our article on deep questions to ask your partner in order to get to know them more and find out more about them. You can also check our article on life goals categories and see if your wants and vision for the future align.
In brief, you should be able to develop a deeper understanding of the other person and their personality. You should also be able to start assessing how your date handles conflicts. You should also have a clear idea and understanding of your partner’s family and upbringing, and how similar factors might have contributed to shaping their character and life philosophy.
4- Make an informed decision:
The bottom line is that after six weeks, it is time to make an informed decision. That’s because, after a month and a half of dating, it will be just the right time for you to assess your date with a clear mind.
You will still be able to admit to yourself what they lack and what boxes they thick, before having fallen blindly for them. It is just the right moment for you to stop and compare to remind yourself of whether the person you’re with is what you were looking for or you’re just with them because you’re having fun and enjoying the ride.
It is important to know what you want out of the relationship and how much you’re willing to put in. Being upfront about your intentions will allow your partner to be honest with you as well.
All we’re saying is that after six weeks, you should have a good idea of what you’re looking for in a partner and whether or not the person you’re seeing fits the bill. You should also know what you don’t want, what you’re willing to compromise on and make a final decision before you watch things get messy, complicated, and crazy.