People who are prone to get attached quickly will often find themselves in a whirlwind of emotions. They may feel happy, excited, and hopeful when they’re in the presence of a special someone. But then they may find that they are not feeling the same way and are miserable when that person is gone, busy or unavailable.
It is important to remember that it is natural to have feelings of attachment develop over time, but it can also be dangerous if you are too quick to get attached. It’s important to take things slow and allow yourself time to get to know the person before making any decisions about how you feel about them.
This is why in today’s article, we will try to speak to your subconscious mind and explain why it makes more sense to take time to get attached to others rather than jump into rushed things. You can also check later our article on how to stop catching feelings fast, or this one on why fast-paced relationships almost always fail when you finish reading.
How to stop getting emotionally attached quickly:
1- Learn to find satisfaction in spending time alone:
If you’re constantly looking for someone to text, call or meet up with you, it’s time to stop and analyze why you can’t find the same pleasure in being alone. It’s a good thing to enjoy being social and meeting new people, but you should be able to enjoy your own company too. In the end, check out this article on why going to a restaurant alone is okay, for instance.
It’s important to take some time for yourself and do things that make you happy without feeling the pressure of needing a person to share the moment with. You’ll find out more about yourself, what makes you happy, and what your passions are when you’re not distracted by another person and their own preferences.
The key to enjoying being alone is not about how much time you spend with yourself. It’s about how you feel when you’re alone. If you are feeling lonely, then nothing will be enjoyable at all. But if you find a way to appreciate your own company, then it can be great!
2- Play videos in the background when feeling lonely:
There are many people out there that have a hard time being alone. They feel lonely when they’re by themselves, or they feel like they don’t have anything going for them when they’re not with someone else.
They might even find themselves feeling anxious or stressed out when they’re alone because of their fears of being lonely. Silence can also trigger some negative thoughts or reminders about past trauma when we’re alone. So what some people started doing to break the silence when alone, is to play youtube videos in the background.
It could be a short movie even if you’re not really watching. It could be a video from a famous YouTuber or your favorite one. It could even be a mukbang of someone devouring their favorite meal and talking to their camera or audience. It could also be a storytime or an ASMR video if it’s time to sleep and you’re all alone.
Either way and whatever you choose, one thing is for sure: you won’t be feeling lonely, sad, and devoured by the heavy silence in the room. You will feel like you have company, but without the negatives like the possibility of getting emotionally attached, abandoned, or hurt in any way.
3- Learn that being alone is better than being in bad company:
When you are alone, you don’t need to worry about anyone else’s feelings but yours. You can be yourself and do things your way. You can do what you want without worrying about getting judged, pleasing someone else, or hurting their feelings.
Additionally, you will not have to worry about getting hurt and having someone betray your trust. Usually, it’s people that get attached easily the ones that suffer the most and develop trust issues after being betrayed or treated unfairly by the person they got attached to. They don’t see it coming and get shocked at how insignificant they are in the eyes of someone they thought they were very connected to.
For these reasons, it is sometimes better to be alone than to be with someone who doesn’t care about us or doesn’t reciprocate our feelings. Being with that person will make you unhappy and will eventually hurt you in some way, which can affect for life your confidence and self-esteem.
4- Be mindful of your emotions and their development:
One way to stop getting attached easily is to be mindful of your feelings and thoughts about the person and be aware of when you are starting to get too attached. The reason why our feelings are so important is that they regulate how quickly we’ll get attached to someone.
It is better to keep an eye on how we’re feeling about people at all times. If we start spending time with someone more than usual, enjoying their company and having fun together with them; we need to watch how our feelings transition. The moment we notice that we’re starting to develop some sort of attachment to them, we should stop and take a step back.
Our emotions are not to be ignored though, because they will help us make more informed decisions. For example, if we are feeling angry or scared then it is likely that we will make rash decisions that could harm the outcome of a situation. Conversely, if we feel confident and sure about what we want to do because we took the time to assess our feelings, then it is likely that our decision will be more informed and less risky.
5- Don’t open up easily or over-share information:
We should never share personal information with anyone we meet. It is important to know who you are talking to, and what their intentions are before you open up. If you don’t know the person well, it is best to keep your guard up.
Most people would be surprised by the number of folks that will grab personal information about a person and use it to harm them intentionally, expose them or misuse it. If you’re smart enough, you would never want to give anyone so much power over you and you’d know that your secrets are safest with you alone.
Even if the person was not going to use your private information in any way, it will still hurt you a lot if you shared your deepest thoughts and personal stories with them only to see them ghost you. Many people, in fact, feel scared and back away when they meet someone who starts oversharing private information with them or recounting personal traumatic events. That’s because it can get too dark and become heavy really quickly, and most people don’t know how to react or support the person.
So, instead, they decide it’s not their responsibility to deal with so much baggage and they ghost the person instead. If you have ever been ghosted before, check this article out on 15 quick questions about ghosting why it happens and how to react to it.
6- Stop believing in love at first sight:
Attachment is a very strong emotion. It is the feeling of being emotionally or romantically connected to someone. This can be for a short time or for a long time. The more attached we are, the harder it becomes to let go of that person.
One last but main reason why we get attached quickly is that we have been conditioned by society and the media to believe that love at first sight exists. We think that we will know if it is true love just by looking into someone’s eyes or spending a few days with them.
If you get attached easily it is better to believe that love, at first sight, is a myth and that it doesn’t exist. Many people think it’s just a feeling of infatuation and these are the smart ones because they protect themselves from falling for lies or appearances. They choose to investigate and get to know the person very well and on many levels before they decide if they are worthy of their time and attention, and that’s the smart thing to do!