5 signs you’re not attracted to someone

signs you're not attracted to someone

To be clear, physical attraction is important. If you’re not physically attracted to someone, the relationship probably isn’t going to work out.

After all, you’re going to be spending a lot of time with this person and you want to make sure that you’re physically attracted to them. You want to find the sight of their physique charming and pleasing to your eyes, especially if you’ll be looking at them all the time and waking up next to them continuously.

However, physical attraction isn’t always easy to determine. Sometimes you can be physically attracted to someone at first sight, but other times it takes a little longer to figure out. And even when you’re sure you’re physically attracted to someone, that doesn’t mean the attraction will last.

It can be hard to say for sure sometimes, whether we’re really attracted to someone. However, there are definitely some signs that we’re not. So let’s learn about these, together!

5 signs you’re not attracted to someone:

1- You don’t catch yourself thinking about them often:

For one thing, if you’re not attracted to a person then you probably won’t find yourself thinking about them when they’re not around. In fact, a good indicator of how much you like someone is how much you find yourself thinking about them when they’re not around.

If they’re constantly on your mind, chances are you’re attracted to them. If not, then you’re probably not and hence have no reason to have them in your mind, unless it’s to scrutinize them.

In fact, if you do happen to think about someone you’re not attracted to, it’s more likely to be in a negative way. For instance, you’ll be thinking about things like why they talk so much, or how you can get out of going on a date with them.

2- You don’t like to be physically close to them:

Physical cues can also be telling; if you don’t feel any urge to touch them or be close to them, that’s usually a sign that the attraction isn’t there. And of course, if you just don’t feel any excitement at the thought of spending time with them, that’s probably a pretty good indication that you’re not interested. You might not want to be shallow and only care about physical appearance.

However, keep in mind that if the thought of barely getting touched by someone specific is comparable to having insects crawl your skin, then there’s a problem! If the thought of physical contact with this person makes you feel uncomfortable or even repulsed, then it’s probably not a good sign.

The opposite is true. So if the thought of physical contact with this person makes you feel excited and eager, then it’s probably a good sign that you’re attracted to them. Of course, physical attraction is just one part of the equation but you want to make sure that you’re attracted to some extent at least to your potential partner. Obviously, You also need to have compatible values, interests, and goals in order for a relationship to work.

But if physical attraction is important to you, then it’s important to pay attention to those feelings and use them as one factor in your decision-making process. In the end, you can check this article out on whether you should date someone you’re not attracted to help you make a more informed decision.

3- You feel like interacting with them in a romantic way is almost a chore:

If you’re not sure whether or not you’re attracted to someone, one way to tell is how you feel when you’re around them or talking to them.

Obviously, you’re not gonna feel like talking to your friends or people you only have a platonic relationship with is a chore. However, you will definitely feel that trying to force something romantic with someone you find unattractive is tiring, if not draining. In fact, any interaction in that sense will seem like a heavy and burdensome task.

If making an effort to go out on a romantic date with them, or doing something special for them in that direction, feels like a chore then it’s probably safe to say you’re not attracted to them. Similarly, if texting or sending flirty messages back and forth feels like a duty rather than something you actually want to do, that’s another sign that you’re not really into them.

Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule, but generally speaking, if you don’t feel much of a spark when you’re around someone, it’s probably because you’re just not that into them.

4- You can’t stand looking at them:

If you find yourself unable to look at someone, it might be a sign that you’re not attracted to them. It’s not always conscious, but if you find your eyes drawn elsewhere whenever they try to catch your gaze, it’s a pretty good indicator.

You might be in denial and not want to admit to yourself that you’re considering someone who’s so unattractive to your eyes, a possible romantic partner. So your eyes are wandering away to protect your feelings and keep you from getting hurt or becoming sad.

Unconscious avoidance of eye contact or avoidance of looking at their face and physique altogether is often a sign that we don’t like the person we’re trying not to look at. Similarly, if you find yourself getting butterflies around someone and staring too much and uncontrollably at them, it’s probably because you’re attracted to them.

5- You focus on their physical flaws and imperfections:

If you find yourself focusing too much on someone’s physical flaws or imperfections, it’s likely you’re not attracted to them. If you find yourself wanting to insult a physical trait of theirs when in an argument with them, even if the argument has nothing to do with looks, then it can be confusing. It can be puzzling, especially if you’re usually a kind person and have never been a bully.

In fact, if you find yourself hating someone’s physical details so much then it’s probably because you hate the fact of even being associated with them. You just hate being associated with someone who looks horrendous; according to your own judgment and idea of them. It’s almost as if you expect to get paid or get rewarded for making such a big sacrifice as giving that person a chance with you.

Maybe you can’t get over the fact they have a big mole on the center of their nose, or that their teeth aren’t perfectly straight. Whatever the case may be, if you find yourself emphasizing their physical flaws, it’s a good sign you’re not attracted to them.

Instead, you should focus on their positive qualities and what draws you to them. Do they make you laugh? Are they kind and caring? When you focus on the things that attract you to someone, it’s much easier to see past their imperfections.

But, if you just cannot bring yourself to stop hating on their looks, even if it’s all just in your head, then you should probably let them go and find someone who will find beauty and uniqueness in their physique.

In the end, you can check this article out on how to stop being attracted to someone you’re not supposed to be attracted to. However, there’s no guide that will teach you the opposite or how to trick your eyes and brain into thinking that someone is physically attractive when they’re just not your type. So take your time to reflect on that!

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