In today’s society, a lot of our communication is done over text, which can make it difficult to convey dominance. It’s important to remember that, even though you’re not face-to-face, you can still come across as weak, indecisive, and even a follower if you’re not careful.
When it comes to dominating your text conversations, there are a few key things to keep in mind.
How to dominate your text conversation?
1- Keep it short and sweet:
First, make sure that you’re being concise and to the point. No one wants to read a novel-length text, so keep your messages short and sweet.
No need for long-winded explanations or flowery language. Keep it brief and straightforward, and your readers will appreciate your no-nonsense approach. And if you really want to assert your dominance, don’t be afraid to use a little bit of emojis or GIFs.
A well-placed winky face can go a long way toward conveying your authority and what you mean. It can also successfully replace a long paragraph, that you’d have to write and where you clarify that you’re trying to flirt, for instance, making the entire ordeal almost awkward in a way.
So go ahead and let your inner alpha shine through in your text messages by keeping them short and by using emojis, whenever possible. Your friends and colleagues will be happy you did.
2- Be direct and assertive:
Second, use strong language that shows you mean business. Don’t be indirect, because indirect language can make you sound uncertain or hesitant. Be assertive and confident in your communication, and avoid throwing in too many qualifiers like “maybe,” “probably,” or “I think.” This makes it seem like you’re not confident in what you’re saying.
Say what you mean to say without any need to beautify your words, justify everything you say, or demonstrate that you’re unsure about every word you’re saying. Also, avoid using filler words like “um” or “uh.” This will make you sound uncertain, hesitant, indirect, and indecisive.
3- Take your time to respond:
Another thing you can do is remember to take your time to respond, and as we said before: less is often more. Don’t bombard your conversation partner with a slew of texts once you see their text. Instead, space out your messages and give them time to respond.
In fact, in our fast-paced world, it’s easy to feel like we need to respond to every text immediately and as fast as we can. However, this isn’t always the best strategy when it comes to maintaining control in a relationship. When you take your time to respond, you’re signaling that you’re the one in charge.
Many people know this and take their time to respond out of fear of looking too desperate too. In the end, This doesn’t mean that you should never respond quickly, though. If your partner is asking for a quick answer, then it’s fine to oblige. But if someone else is bombarding you with texts then unless they’re in imminent danger you should be able to feel free to answer when you feel like it and not before that.
By waiting a few hours to respond, you’re showing that you’re not going to be controlled by your phone or put your life on hold, sit on a rock and wait for someone to text you. You’re in charge of when and how you communicate, and the people texting you will have to respect that.
So next time you’re feeling overwhelmed by texts, remember that you don’t have to respond right away. Take your time, and show everyone who’s really in charge. By following this one simple tip, you’ll be well on your way to becoming a texting powerhouse.
4- Use a confident and strong tone:
Make sure your tone comes across as strong, even if you’re joking around. The last thing you want is for someone to take your dominance as a joke.
Use strong language. For example, instead of saying “I don’t want to be a follower,” say “I want to be a leader.” This doesn’t mean saying obscenities, but rather using language that is confident and assertive.
Expressing your own thoughts wants, and ideas; is always better than showing that you worry about other people’s opinions of you above all. A lion doesn’t concern himself with the opinions of a sheep. So always use the first-person point of view when texting.
This will enable you to make your words carry weight. Using language that is authoritative and commanding can be powerful. Again, don’t forget to watch your tone. Be the leader in the conversation and don’t let anyone else take control.
5- Put your foot down when needed:
If you’re looking to be more dominant in your text-based interactions, there is one last piece of advice we have to give you before we let you go: Don’t hesitate to put your foot down when needed.
If someone is trying to take advantage of you or cross a boundary, make it known that their behavior is not acceptable. Be assertive in your communication. Use strong language and make it clear that you will not even take undermining jokes and digs, let alone something more direct and offensive.
It will also be worth it to be prepared for any topic so you’re never caught off-guard. As much as you can try to know what you’re talking about and have a plan for every conversation unless you want to end up following someone else’s lead.
By following all the tips described above, you’ll easily come across as dominant in your text conversations and people will start taking notice.