It’s never easy to say goodbye to someone you love. Even when you’re ending a relationship because it’s literally the only option you have, it can still be tough to let go. Unfortunately, it can be necessary to end things, sometimes.
If you’re in a situation where you love someone but can’t be with them, it’s important to remember that it’s not your fault. Sometimes, circumstances beyond your control mean that it’s not possible to stay together.
And while it may be painful, sometimes the best thing you can do is let go. Here are a few tips on how to leave someone you love but can’t be with:
Steps to leave someone you love but can’t be with:
1- Choose honesty for yourself:
It’s never easy ending a relationship with someone you love. You may have grown close, shared experiences, and made memories that will last a lifetime. But sometimes, circumstances beyond your control make it impossible to be together.
In these cases, it’s important, to be honest with yourself, not to get hurt or disappointed in the end. If you cannot commit to a future together, it is better to end the relationship before things get too complicated or hurtful. This can be a difficult decision to make, but it is often the most realistic and compassionate option.
Choose what is best for you and your partner, even if it means saying goodbye. If you’re not sure if you can really commit to this person and have a normal and healthy relationship that can be made public, it’s better to end things now rather than dragging it out.
2- Be honest with the other person too:
Honesty is always the best policy, especially when it comes to relationships. If you find yourself in a situation where you love someone but can’t be with them, it’s important to have an honest conversation with that person.
Choose your words carefully and try to avoid hurting their feelings, but make it clear that you’re not willing to bet on a losing horse. Once you’ve communicated your decision about the relationship, stick to it. It may be difficult at first, but it’s important to remember that you’re doing what’s best for you both.
If your partner tries to convince you to stay or dissuade you from making the obvious right choice which is to end things then try harder, and don’t give in. They may not be able to see it now, but ending the relationship is ultimately for the best.
So be honest with your partner, too. It’s important to have an open and honest conversation about why you’re leaving and what your feelings and thinking process are like. This will help them understand and hopefully make the process a little easier for both of you.
3- Give yourself time to heal:
Give yourself time to grieve. It’s normal to feel sad, angry, or even relieved when you end a relationship. Allow yourself to feel whatever emotions come up with it so cut yourself some slack.
In fact, it’s important to give yourself time to grieve and heal. Trying to force yourself to move on too quickly will only make things harder in the long run. Allow yourself to feel sad, angry, and hurt. Cry if you need to. Mourn the loss of what could have been.
But eventually, remember that this person is not the only one out there for you. There will be other relationships and other chances for happiness. Give yourself time the benefit of the doubt, focus on the possibility that you’ll heal sooner rather than later, that you will move on, and even be able to find someone just as good or better in some ways than this person.
Maybe your destiny and life journey are supposed to be with that person instead, but you’re delaying yourself and holding yourself back with this absurd story. In the end, you’ll probably find that true love and build a long-lasting relationship with someone special, if you let this person go first.
4- Don’t stay in touch:
Breakups are hard, there’s no doubt about that. But sometimes, you have to end a relationship with someone you love for the greater good. If staying in touch would only make things harder, it might be best to cut ties completely too.
It’s not going to be hard at first, but you’ll eventually move on and find happiness again. And who knows, maybe one day you’ll be able to reconnect and rekindle your relationship when the obstacles that you have today no longer exist.
However, this doesn’t mean you should decide to dedicate your life to waiting on this person forever. Try to move on and have no hope for a future with them, if it’s meant to be then it will still happen somehow. If not, then you would’ve worked on yourself, moved on, healed, and had a life that’s full rather than waited pointlessly. So for now, it’s probably best to just move on.
5- Don’t keep any reminders:
It’s never easy to end a relationship, especially when you still care for the other person deeply. However, sometimes it is necessary in order to move on with your life as we insisted many times earlier. If you find yourself in this situation, it is important to get rid of any reminders of your ex that you have around your house.
This includes things like photos, gifts, or clothing. It may be difficult at first, but it will help you to move on more quickly. Also, be sure to give back any gifts that your ex gave to you. There’s no need to keep them and be reminded of the relationship every time you see them.
So try not to dwell on the past or what could’ve been by keeping little objects that you put a big emotional value on and that could be hard to throw away later. In fact, we have discussed this point in detail in this article and how keeping some reminders of a relationship can stop you from moving on and make you believe that the two of you are still connected somehow after the separation, which could only be an illusion.
It’s okay to be sad and miss the other person at first, but dwelling on negative feelings and little objects will only make it harder to move on. Break-ups are never easy, but by taking some positive steps, you can start to heal and move on with your life.