It can feel like a slap in the face when you find out that your crush likes someone else.
It seems unfair, it’s frustrating, and above all, it hurts. But this doesn’t mean that you can’t do anything about it. Keep reading to find out a few things you can do if you wish to take action.
What to do when your crush likes someone else?
1. Remain friendly with your crush and the person they like:
It may sound counterproductive, but if you think about it, being rude and mad around the person you like won’t make them feel attracted to you. Remember the saying “you catch more flies with honey than vinegar”.
The truth is, your crush can’t help feeling the way they are feeling. You didn’t have to do anything wrong necessarily either. Sometimes, the heart simply wants what it wants. However, that shouldn’t stop you from showing the kind of supportive friend you can be. That includes being nice to the person your crush likes.
Your crush will see that you understand what their motives are and you’re trying to be supportive. Even if that doesn’t make them fall in love with you, it will certainly make them see the amazing person you are and value your presence in their life.
2. Keep flirting with your crush in a playful manner:
Flirting behavior doesn’t have to be obvious for its effect to be the same. Even when your crush tells you that he is interested in someone, that shouldn’t stop you from trying to get their attention. They say everything is fair in love and war so why not enter a competition for their attention, just as long as they’re not actually official with their person of interest. As long as your crush is not officially taken or in a relationship, you can still do anything you can to get the odds in your favor.
The best way to do it is to engage in playful flirtation. This way, even if your crush suspects your intentions, they can’t accuse you of trying to steal their heart from another person because even that person doesn’t fully own their heart yet.
If you are good friends that’s great. Deep bonds are born from friendships, which means that your relationship has a lot of room to grow. If you have in the habit of texting every day use it as an excuse to sound more playful and flirtatious than normal. You can send funny things to your crush or things that might interest them if you wish to engage in deeper conversations.
3. Be more involved in your crush’s life:
If you are more present in your crush’s life he will get used to your presence and value you even more. You can ensure that you spend time with your crush if you plan activities with your group of friends.
You can plan to go out to have a picnic in the park or simply have a movie night. Either way, these are excuses for your crush to see you in situations with a good atmosphere and associate you with fun times.
When you manage to be together make sure that you really are together. With this, we mean that you need to find reasons to sit next to your crush and interact with them more often so they are aware of your presence.
Also, by being near your crush you can easily chat with them and help them see that there’s more to you than what meets the eye.
4. Don’t change who you are, highlight the good things about you instead:
When you find out that your crush is interested in someone else your first instinct is to compare yourself to that person. You do this because you want to know what they have that you don’t that piqued the interest of your crush.
However, this is not healthy behavior. Trying to change who you are so someone likes you doesn’t usually work, at least not in the long term. People can sense when you are being fake and that makes them suspicious of you, which can end up creating a wall between you two. Such a wall will only form an obstacle to emotional intimacy.
You need to only look at yourself and find the things that you appreciate about yourself. These could be a set of skills that you are proud of, how good of a friend you are, and how people seem to be comfortable around you, for example.
Focus on these things and bring them out so everyone else can notice them, including your crush. Essentially you will become the best version of yourself, which will make you unique, regardless of whether that makes you your crush’s type or not.
5. Reveal your feelings to your crush:
Sometimes, it takes a bold move to make progress. It could be the case that your crush had already been interested in you, but didn’t think you could like them back so they tried to move on. It could also be that your crush likes you too but doesn’t know it yet and telling them how you feel about them may bring those feelings to the surface.
Either way, it’s always good to take a risk, because you would never know what could happen otherwise. If you never tried to make the first move, you would be left wondering how things could have been different if only you dared to admit your feelings.
If you decide to do this then it doesn’t even have to be in person if you fear rejection, you can check this article out instead on how to write a love letter and choose that method.