If you’ve been cheated on, you probably know the feeling of betrayal that comes along with it. You might be wondering if you should take your cheating partner back.
While there’s no easy answer to this question, it’s important to think about what you want and what your relationship goals are before making a decision. If you’re considering taking a cheater back, it’s important to ask yourself why they cheated in the first place. If they were unhappy in the relationship or felt like they weren’t being appreciated, it’s possible that they’ll cheat again.
In fact, they’ll probably cheat again in every scenario regardless of why they did it. So if you need more convincing here are 5 reasons not to take a cheater back:
5 reasons not to take a cheater back:
1- There’s no guarantee a cheater will not cheater again:
They may say they’re sorry and that they’ll never do it again, but the fact is that they already did it once. And if they did it once, there’s a good chance they’ll do it again. So, save yourself the heartache and move on.
There are plenty of other people out there who would never dream of cheating on you. Find someone who will be loyal and trustworthy: someone who will make you feel loved and supported, not betrayed.
2- Trust has been destroyed:
Ask yourself how much you trust your cheating partner now after the fact and after they did what they did. It’s going to be difficult to move forward if there’s always going to be that doubt in the back of your mind.
If your relationship was already suffering from problems then it will be a thousand times worse, now that trust has been destroyed. You will not be able to rest or do anything without questioning where your partner is or if they’re saying the truth. So even if your partner is sorry, you have to consider that it’s going to take a lot of time and effort to rebuild trust.
3- The reason why they cheated cannot be eliminated completely:
If your partner has cheated on you, it can be tempting to try and forgive and forget. After all, everyone makes mistakes, right? But if you’re considering taking your cheater back, there’s one very important factor to consider: the reason why they cheated in the first place.
If your partner cheated because they were unhappy in the relationship, then it’s possible that they’ll cheat again if you take them back. After all, their unhappiness is what led them to cheat in the first place. So what makes you think they’ll be happier now in the relationship when they weren’t before, especially since the relationship has been damaged now by their mistake.
However, if your partner cheated because they made a momentary lapse in judgment, then even in this scenario what makes you think they’ll become wiser and more mature overnight. They might be sorry now but this doesn’t mean they’re still not the same person with the same thinking and values that didn’t stop them initially from cheating that one time.
The reasoning here is that there’s no good reason to cheat, regardless of what type of excuses your partner tries to feed you. Plus, let’s say there’s a good reason why they cheated initially then what makes you think they won’t cheat if they have better reasons and motives in the future? If you ask us it’s a pretty silly bet to make.
Only you can decide whether or not taking your cheater back is the right decision for you. But if you’re trying to weigh your options, it’s important to keep the reason for their infidelity in mind.
4- It becomes easier to cheat again after you take them back:
Once you’ve taken someone back after they’ve cheated, it becomes much easier for them to do it again. And again. And again. If you take them back, you’re essentially telling them that their bad behavior is acceptable, and that’s not a message you want to send.
In fact, it’s almost as if you’re rewarding them for what they did by sharing their bed again and being theirs in every way again, even after such an unforgivable act.
So, if you’re trying to decide whether or not to take a cheater back, remember that it’s not just about this one relationship. It’s about the message you’re sending to the cheater and to yourself too. No matter what lies you tell yourself taking a cheater back will make you feel like you sold yourself short and like you deserve better; which can build resentment over time for your partner.
5- You deserve better:
Once a cheater, always a cheater, or so they say. And while there may be some truth to that, there are also plenty of people who have taken their cheating partners back and had the relationship work out in the end. But if you’re on the fence about whether or not you should give your ex another chance, one last good reason not to is that you deserve better.
Yes, they may be sorry for what they did, but that doesn’t change the fact that they betrayed you, willingly and intentionally by doing something so unforgivable and unforgettable too.
And what’s worse than being cheated on? Staying with someone who you can’t trust or someone who cheated on you. You are basically giving them the chance to become a serial cheater. And, we all know that serial cheaters cannot change to save their lives!
No other partner will treat you as bad if your worry is not to find someone better. So basically anyone can top this cheater if that’s your concern. This is the lowest of the low already, and if you have been a good partner and loyal yourself; then there’s no denying that you deserve better than this.
By taking them back, you’re only setting yourself up for more pain down the road. So why do it? Move on and find someone who will appreciate you; someone who won’t cheat. You deserve it.