A thank you note or text can be a good way to show appreciation for the person you’ve just gone on your first date with. They can be a nice gesture, and a way to find your place in your dates’ hearts. It will make it hard to forget you, and let them know that you had a blast.
They can also be an easy opener to re-establish texting after having met in person. That’s because if you really liked your date, it is a horrible idea not to text them and fall back into mind games trap like: “who will text first?”. Thank you texts are also a way to test the waters and see what your date thought of you and how likely they are to go out on a second date with you.
Writing a thank you text can be confusing:
The only problem is that a lot of people don’t know how to write a thank-you text after a first date. It can be difficult to figure out what to say, how much detail is needed, what to mention, and what not to bring up.
This is why in today’s article we give you some tips that might help you write a good thank-you note after your first date. We also give you 6 ready examples of thank you texts to send after a good first date, to guide you enough to write your own or even just copy one!
Tips to write a good thank you text after your first date:
1- Keep it short and sweet:
A first date thank you message is a delicate thing. It should be short, sweet, and simple. You don’t want to sound too eager or desperate, but at the same time, you want to show that you are interested in going out again. The best way to go about this is to keep it short and simple.
2- Mention something funny (if you can):
It’s always a good idea to send a thank you message after the first date. It shows that you’re polite, not playing hard to get, and chivalrous.
It can also show or remind them that you can be funny too. So if something funny and worthy of mention happened during the date you can make a quick reminder of it in the form of a little joke. This should only be done if it makes sense and if you’re sure they’re gonna understand what you mean in a heartbeat.
Remember though that the message shouldn’t take more than two minutes to write. If nothing funny comes to mind then, you might want to write one quick line about how good the date was or how much you enjoyed it.
3- No pressure needed:
Many people think that a thank you message is a good way to ask for a second date or at least leave the ball in their court by saying you’re ready for one. However, we disagree. We think a thank you text should have no motive or purpose behind it other than being a small gesture to say you appreciated having met them.
If they’re interested and felt the same about you, then this sweet gesture will only make them eager to see you again. If they didn’t enjoy themselves then one text message isn’t gonna force them to see you again anyway.
So just test the waters with this text by checking what they have to say and if your feelings about the date are reciprocated. You don’t have to ask for another date straight away, you’ll get a chance to do that later when you re-establish texting.
4- Be straight to the point:
A thank you message is obviously a text to say thank you for a date in the end. So be straight to the point, don’t write a long essay, and keep it sweet.
When to send a thank you text after the first date?
A thank you message can be sent after the first date, but not after every date. Sending a message too soon can create funny and weird situations like running into each other again in the parking. However, if you have both left and about half an hour has passed since you heard from them then you can send one!
The best time to send a thank you message is when the two of you have left each other’s company within an hour or two. This way, the person doesn’t feel pressured to respond right away and they are more likely to appreciate the gesture.
Should women send a thank you text after the first date?
Why not? If a woman enjoyed herself and had a nice gentleman pamper her, make her laugh, and probably pay for her dinner then why not send a short thank you text.
However, It is not a competition or race of who’ll send the text first. So if you’re a straight woman that enjoyed her first date, it doesn’t harm to wait a little longer and see if the nice gentleman sends it first.
That’s because traditionally men take pleasure in doing the chase, courtship, and being chivalrous. And, women take an undeniable enjoyment in being on the receiving end. Nothing to overthink or get offended about, here. Some would argue that it’s just how things have been for the longest throughout history, and how we are programmed to be!
Examples of thank you texts after the first date:
Example 1:
“Hello gorgeous, Just wanted to say thank you for the beautiful evening. I had an amazing time and felt like the luckiest guy in the restaurant… since my dish was so delish! Just kidding. Let me know if you have made back safe and sound!”
Example 2:
“Hey handsome, Thanks for the quality time and delicious dinner. It was beautiful and your choice of restaurant was spot-on! I hope you have a nice evening, take care.”
Example 3:
“Hi smiley face, I hope you’re having that beautiful smile on while reading my text. I just wanted to thank you for your time and funny jokes! I still laughing at this point. I had a great afternoon and I hope you enjoyed yourself too. Stay safe!”
Example 4:
“Hey, I just wanted to let you know that I had an amazing time with you today. But, I feel that you’ve given me more than just your time. I have a smile on my face whenever I think of you. I hope you reached home safely, let me know if you did.”
You can also check this article on how long to date before moving in together. Or this one on how to spot and avoid a serial dater!