Yes, you can use the law of attraction in your favor to get your ex back. In theory, the law of attraction states that you are constantly manifesting the things you want, by simply thinking about them. But when you try to focus on it with a conscient intent, it becomes much more powerful.
Essentially, we attract what we think of, so if you wish to get your ex back, you’ll have to focus on it and have it in your mind. But since we are used to thinking about different things at the same time or just not being in control of our thoughts constantly, here are a few guidelines you to follow for the law of attraction to help you get your ex back.
How to use the law of attraction to get your ex back:
1. Try to find reasons why you want your ex back:
Trying to attract your ex can be trickier than attracting someone new that you have never been involved with. You share moments and experiences, but when you broke up, you subconsciously started associating that relationship with bad emotions. You even proved that none of your shared past history mattered because you went through with the breakup. So you need to be honest with yourself and know exactly why you want your ex back.
It’s important to do this when in a good mood and try to overcome any resentment you might still feel towards them. If you are feeling anxious, sad, or depressed because you miss the relationship you had with your ex, then trying to manifest getting back together. You can do that by associating the relationship with positive emotions in your mind and forgetting about the painful and horrific breakup you went through.
2. Visualize being back together:
Ideally, the reason why you want to be back with your ex is that you still believe in the relationship you had. So you recognize that it had good moments and that it is worth working on and improving. That’s why visualization is so important when you try to make the law of attraction work.
Try to make your good memories come to life, by closing your eyes, revisiting them in your mind, and thinking of them with a smile on your face. Focus on these memories and imagine what kind of other good moments you could create if you got back together. Remember that you want your relationship back but under an improved not worse version, so it’s crucial to think about it in the best light possible.
3. Control the thoughts you have about why it won’t work:
Human beings can be quite negative sometimes, and that’s mostly because they fear rejection or think they lack confidence in certain areas. Don’t be scared of the fact that you might experience negative thoughts regarding your process to make the law of attraction work.
You might think that it is not worth it at times, or that your ex will never be happy with you despite your efforts, or that you will never be able to have a functional relationship. These kinds of thoughts can hinder your efforts greatly, so you need to learn how to catch them during their early formation stage and silence them.
First, you need to realize that these thoughts, probably stem from your fear of rejection. Maybe you did something that you’re not proud of in the relationship, or maybe you think you’re not confident enough to be a good partner for your ex.
In this case, what you need to do is to focus on your potential. Think about all the great things you could contribute to the relationship. Once you added all the positive things you will see your confidence growing. You need to value yourself first, otherwise, no one will see your true value.
4. Affirmations will give you confidence:
Apart from visualization, affirmations are a great tool you can use to make the law of attraction work. To manifest what you want to achieve, you need to truly believe that what you want is possible to have and that your efforts are effective. Realize that you are the only one who can change the situation in your life and if you don’t believe in yourself, no one will.
Because this state of mind is hard to reach at first for most people, one thing you can do is write down affirmations. Things like why you deserve what you want because you know your value.
Be confident about your goals and talk or think highly of yourself. Make sure that no negative influence will surround you from other negative people in your life. Check this article to learn about 5 types of negative people and how to cut them off.
Since you’re trying to get back with your ex, it’s also a good idea to include affirmations about love. These could be things such as how you are capable of loving fully and receiving love. Also mention how you love yourself, and know how to make others feel loved and appreciated, as nobody else can.
Start writing these affirmations many times and saying them out loud too until you believe them. This will boost your confidence and help you achieve what you want.
5. There’s only so much you can do:
Just because the law of attraction can work, it doesn’t mean that it will always do without fail. It’s normal to get confused and even frustrated, but the reality is that it’s easier to attract inanimate things rather than people.
As much as you want the law of attraction to work, you can’t manipulate people with it. Your ex will only do something they want to do. That’s why it’s better that you combine these steps with meeting your ex talking calmly and telling them how you feel. In the end, manifestation and the law of attraction are all about sending your purest love to the universe and waiting for the universe to give you love back.
In the end, if you’re a fan of the law of attraction and believe in it, check out our article on how to manifest safely and without sinning or harming anyone unintentionally. You can also check this article if you’re considering keeping a manifestation journal.