It’s common for someone to want to talk to you after they ignored you or even almost ghosted you forever. It could be that they realized how much they missed talking to you and want that again.
The person who has been ignoring you may be feeling guilty about what happened and wants to make amends or downplay the fact that they “left you on read”. Or, they might also be trying to test the waters and see if you will respond positively after having been ignored and let it go, or if you won’t.
Either way, if you are hurt that someone special to you has been ignoring you for some time now and you want to teach them a lesson when they come back, then here’s how. You can think about checking our article on ghosting and see if that’s want’s happening to you after you finish reading.
Steps to take when he texts you after having ignored you:
1- Leave him on read for half a day:
There are many reasons why people might want to ignore someone. Maybe they don’t want to hear what they have to say, or maybe they’re trying to avoid a confrontation or simply just bored of their relationship with them.
That’s why the first step you should take when someone ignores you is to ignore them back, it is a passive way of sending the message that you don’t care about them the same way they don’t care about you.
Or if they just got bored of you, then it sends back the messages that they also can bore you. Either way, giving someone a taste of their own medicine can send a message that their negative feelings towards you are reciprocated by you. And, that’s a good way to save face and impose respect in the future.
2- Reply with one word only, if possible:
After you’re done ignoring them or leaving them on read, you can proceed to reply to their text with a one-word text. if you want to be petty and engage in playing his mind games then you can reply with a very very short text, preferably a one-word now, regardless of what his text what about.
Don’t make it obvious that you’re hurt yet or upset: just act in a nonchalant way and give him a quick “ok” or “cool” to whatever it is he said.
Obviously, it is always better not to play any mind games when dating or getting to know someone. Unfortunately, if the other person starts then they basically leave you with no choice. If you think he has been ignoring you to play hard to get or get you to chase him then you can return the favors and start being petty too.
You can later check this article out on a few signs that a guy wants you to chase him, and why you should never give him that satisfaction!
3- Be cold for a couple of days:
One of the most common mistakes people make when someone ignores them and then comes back is trying to get their attention and keeping them interested by being too nice.
However, this will only make the person who ignored you feel like their plan has worked and that you never to be treated badly to care more and become more affectionate with them. In other words, it will make them think you are too desperate and clingy.
What you need to do instead is take a step back and show them that you genuinely don’t care about them, or at least not enough to die the next time they decide to ghost you. Show them that life goes on for you and that your world doesn’t revolve around them.
4- Ask where he was or where he disappeared during that time:
After you get that person’s attention and get them to wonder why you’ve been acting cold, distant or simply different, now is the time to ask them a question. Look them straight in the eyes, preferably in person and ask them where they were or where they disappeared when they have ignored you in the past. This will catch them off guard and have them explain themselves.
Don’t lecture them or give them a very hard time about it. Just listent carefully, ask questions if any without blaming them and move on. They will understand on their own that if they want your attention, they will have no choice but to be serious and show continuous support. The message is clear and obvious. Don’t make yourself look bothered by blaming them or getting down to the nitty-gritty of why they ghosted or ignore you.
5- Go back to normal:
After all these steps have been followed through days meticulously, and you feel that your message was clear even though indirect, then you can go back to being yourself. No need to hold back or hold any grudges, you can laugh, talk, enjoy yourself and the company of that person. Life is too short to hold a grudge or ruin a relationship over something so petty.
Plus you can’t really force people to be interested in talking to you or spending time with you. In the end, it’s their choice and they have to like you enough to make that choice. Check out yhis article on why you should never force anyone to talk to you during the dating stage or in a relationship.
What if he does it again after all this:
The steps detailed above are good and all to use once to get back at someone who ignored you. However, you can’t keep getting ignored by the same person and still not get the hint. Someone who keeps ignoring you is clearly not interested in getting to know you more or having you in their life. They probably reach back every time just out of boredom or by mistake, if anything.
If someone keeps ignoring you, it might be time to move on. It may seem like they are trying to look very sought after or too busy to give themselves some type of value or importance. But if the person is not showing any interest in you consistently and on different occasions then it may be time to start a new life chapter without them!