Breakups are rarely amicable. And most of the time, it can be tough to let go of someone you care about even if the breakup was amicable. Plus, if your ex was the one who ended things, it will be hard to forgive them. Yet, forgiveness is essential if you want to move on and heal. It’s not going to be easy, but it’s necessary.

Perhaps you got blindsided by the break-up and didn’t even see it coming or understand the reasons yet. However, we assure you that with time you’ll grow wiser and you may be able to see things from your ex-partner’s perspective. When this happens, you will understand why your ex made the decision they did. In return, this will help you to forgive them and move on without any grudges or bitterness.

But what if we helped you make this realization sooner in order to reach this final step today, move on and save you all the time? With these few steps, we help you understand things better, heal and hopefully forgive your ex for dumping you, today rather than next year! So if you’re struggling to forgive your ex, just read on and make sure you keep an open mind as it is a prerequisite for the healing process.

5 steps to forgive your ex for dumping you:

1. Realize that it was for the best:

The first step to being able to forgive your ex for dumping you is realizing that they did you a favor. They showed you that they weren’t worth your time and energy, and now you can move on to better things. Yeah, it sucks at the moment, but in the long run, it’s for the best. You’ll be happy you didn’t waste more time pursuing something that was doomed.

So grab this opportunity, and run for your life rather than be stuck in an on-again-off-again relationship which can be toxic and draining. The break-up happened for a reason and you should think it’s best it happened earlier rather than later because that would’ve just meant more energy and time wasted focusing on something meaningless.

Perhaps now you’ll have the time to find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. So then let it go and try to adopt a positive mindset about it. Don’t hold on to anger and resentment, because it will only poison your own happiness. And, whatever you do, try not to contemplate revenge as it will just waste your time equally as if you would’ve stayed in this failed relationship. Life is too short to waste time on people who don’t deserve it. Let go, be glad it happened today rather than tomorrow, and move on.

2. Your ex may be young, immature, and reckless:

Your ex may be too young, immature, and reckless right now, but that doesn’t mean you can’t forgive them for dumping you. Keep in mind that they will grow older, learn from their mistakes, and change for the better hopefully. No need to hold a grudge against them for life, especially since they’re not even going to be the same person a year from now anyway. If your ex is someone in their twenties or younger then the version of them that you met is still a “work in progress”.

It’s not their final identity and who they are. Their character and personality will change a lot and a couple of years from now they may have changed fully from who you thought they were when you were with them. So in this case, what’s the need to make things personal or keep a vendetta against someone who will stop existing soon enough? We’re not saying they will literally stop existing or something bad will happen to them. Again, we’re just saying they’re going to change a lot and learn from their mistakes and become a better person. You may just have met them during a difficult period or so.

Yes, it hurt when they ended things out of the blue, but maybe they just weren’t ready for a serious relationship. Or maybe they realized that you weren’t compatible in the long run. Whatever the reason, it’s important to remember that we all make mistakes regardless of our age too.

3. There’s no turning back because it will only get worse:

Thirdly, let’s say your ex made a mistake, does it matter in the end? If your ex is willing to admit that they were wrong, would that solve anything? Would you want to get stuck in a toxic on-again-off-again relationship?

Perhaps, now you’re still blinded by feelings but the rational answer to this question is “no”. So if the breakup took place, you should accept it and move on. Maybe there’s still a chance for you two to be friends and while that’s not always possible; who knows? it may work for you! In the end, forgiveness is always a sign of strength. But, what you don’t want to do is give them another chance to break your heart by going back with them after they have dumped you once.

After you’ve been dumped, it can be tempting to try to get back together with your former flame. However, as anyone who has been through this knows, going back to someone who has hurt you is only setting yourself up for more pain. The break-up happened for a reason, and getting back together will not make that reason go away. In fact, it’s likely that the same issues that led to the breakup will hurt you again if you give them another chance. So, save yourself the heartache, forgive them, and move on. There’s someone out there who will treat you better.

4. Understand that none of this will matter in a year or two:

Fourthly, let us confirm that although when you get dumped by an ex, it seems like the end of the world; all of the pain will pass eventually. Right now you may think you’ll never find anyone else and you’ll be alone forever. But the funny thing is, in a year or two, none of it will matter anymore. You’ll look back and it will seem like a distant dream. You will be grateful that they walked out of your life at the exact moment that they did because it would’ve enabled you to meet other people and rebuild.

In no time, your life will be complete and full without your ex or any of their problems. And you’ll be glad it happened because it made you realize what you really want in life. So if you’re going through a tough break-up right now, just remember that it won’t matter in the grand scheme of things. And eventually, you’ll find someone who makes you forget all about your ex. Moreover, you’ll be happy that you were single, free, and healed when you met them because if you didn’t and if you held onto the past instead then your future wouldn’t have been so bright.

5. Look for every chance to laugh again, have fun and enjoy life:

Now the last step in our list of steps to follow to forgive your ex for dumping you is to: imagine that they’re a cartoon character. Now, imagine that they just slipped on a banana peel and went flying through the air, legs flailing in all directions… Just kidding!

But did you giggle at least? If so, congratulations! You’ve just taken the first step toward forgiveness. It might not seem like much, but it’s a start. After all, laughter is the best medicine and it can also help you to forget about all the pain that your ex caused you. So go ahead and laugh at their expense. It might not make the hurt go away entirely, but it will help you to start healing. And who knows, maybe someday you’ll even be able to look back on this experience and laugh about it yourself.

In the end, Life is full of surprises; some of them good and some of them not-so-good. But learning how to roll with the punches is an essential part of life. And that’s especially true when it comes to getting dumped by your ex. It sucks, there’s no denying that. But holding onto all that anger and resentment is only going to make you feel worse in the long run.

So instead of moping around and feeling sorry for yourself, why not look for any chance that life throws at you to enjoy yourself to the maximum and have fun? Sure, your ex might have done you wrong. But that doesn’t mean you have to let them ruin your life. Life is too short to hold onto all that negativity. So go out and live your best life; you deserve it!