So, you’re interested in a new guy and you don’t know how to get his attention. It happens to the best of us! The good news is that men are not difficult to engage with, especially not if you have a few tricks up your sleeve.
Today, we will show you how to get him interested fast in 5 steps. Our tips are easy to follow and they’re guaranteed to get results if the guy in question is open to something, and just not daring to take the initiative.
If he isn’t, remember there’s plenty of fish in the sea, so you’ll be able to get another person interested in no time. Without further ado, let’s break down the 5 steps!
How to Get Him Interested Fast:
1- Cater to His Inner Ego:
Men are more likely to be interested in you if you find ways to bring out their inner hero. According to relationship expert James Bauer, there’s a concept called “hero instinct”, which explains the way men think and feel when they’re in a relationship.
Most women don’t know anything about this instinct, but it turns out it’s very easy to understand. We all have innate drivers, natural responses we’re not consciously aware of, and men are no different.
If you learn to trigger those responses, men will feel an instant pull toward you. To cater to his inner ego, all you have to do is make him feel needed somehow. You don’t have to act like a weakling or a damsel in distress, you just need to make him feel like he has a useful role in your life.
2- Pay Attention to Him:
Though it’s smart not to push things or be way too available, you must give him attention. We all love it, don’t we? You need to give him just enough attention so he notices when you’re a little too distant. If you do that, he won’t be able to stop thinking about you.
It’s all about balance. Don’t be hot and cold, but do make him feel like getting your attention is a gift or a reward he has to work for because it is. You can do that by being so kind, attentive, caring, charming when with him but then completely disappearing and waiting for him to contact you first once you’re gone.
That way, you will be giving a man space to pursue you, which is a famous strategy or thing to do in the dating world. when you give him space, he will feel that being with you is not a given but a rare occurrence he should work and plan for. Make him feel heard and seen, show him you’re interested in him as a person.
3- Inspire a Little Jealousy:
This is one of the most well-known tactics to get a guy interested fast. And you know what? It works when he’s into you just enough, so you should give it a try. However, there’s a right way to do it. You want to keep your scheme light and cheeky. Just tease him a bit to see how he reacts. If he gets a little jealous, you’re golden.
What you don’t want to do is flirt with other guys in front of him while you ignore him. If you push it too far, your chances will be ruined. Just tease a little, maybe mention a guy who’s trying to get you or casually bring up how good-looking that one guy is. Not without correcting with a “but, not for me”, after a short silence, for instance!
4- Surprise Him a Little:
Sometimes, men make the silly mistake of thinking they got you all figured out. You need to show him that’s not the case at all by doing something that’s out of character. This will surprise him and make him wonder what other parts of yourself you’ve been keeping on the down-low.
Let’s say all he knows about you is that you’re a sweet, by-the-book woman. Well, it may be time to give him a little peek into your adventurous or spicy side. Doing this will keep things interesting and he will be hooked.
However, remember it’s not about acting like someone you’re not, it’s about being a little daring and more open.
5- Make Him Worry About Missing His Chance:
Last but not least, it’s important to keep men on their toes. If he thinks he has you, he will relax and get comfortable. However, you have to remind him that if you snooze, you lose. You’re an amazing woman all around; you’re beautiful and successful, and your personality is unique.
Remind him indirectly that anyone would be lucky to have you. You want him, but if he doesn’t wise up, you won’t be there forever. Don’t be available to him 100% of the time, show him you have other things to attend to, other people to see, other things to do.
Humans are strange; we often want the things that are most difficult to get and we don’t know what we have until it’s gone. So, make sure he knows he could miss his chance and what that would be like for him. If he’s interested, he will step up his game and meet you at the same level.
Conclusion:
This step-by-step guide on how to get him interested fast in 5 steps is not difficult to follow, but you must play your cards right. If the guy is interested in you, he will respond well to these tactics!
Check out our article on 7 signs that he only sees you as a friend, to see if both of you are even on the same page!