It’s happened to all of us before. We meet someone new and we’re instantly drawn to them. We start daydreaming about what it would be like to date them. Maybe we even build up the courage to ask them out, only to be met with rejection.
But even though they don’t feel the same way about us, we can’t help but feel a little bit attached to them. After all, we’ve invested so much time and energy into thinking about what could have been. We may never have actually dated them, but in our minds, they were already our perfect match.
It feels like we were so close and almost dated them. It’s hard to let go of someone like that, even if we know that it’s for the best. So how do we get over someone we never dated? Read on and find out.
5 Steps to get over someone we almost dated:
1- Face the truth:
It can be tough getting over someone we never actually dated. We build them up in our heads to be this perfect match for us, and it hurts when we realize it’s not going to happen. But let’s face the truth: they’re not perfect, and you deserve better than someone who’s not interested in you.
Yes, it sucks realizing that you’re never going to date your celebrity crush or that hot colleague or even cute classmate from your English class. But you’re better off without someone who doesn’t see how amazing you are.
So mourn the loss of what could have been, then pick yourself up and keep moving. There is plenty of other fish in the sea, and one of them is bound to be a better match for you.
2- Realize that it was all in your head:
It’s funny how we can build up entire relationships in our heads, complete with all the highs and lows of a real relationship, even though we’ve never actually gone on a date with the person. Maybe we’ve been crushing on them from afar for years, or maybe we just had a brief encounter that left a lasting impression.
Either way, it can be tough to get over someone we never actually dated. A big part of moving on is realizing that it was all in your head. The person you built up in your mind is probably very different from the real person, and once you realize that, it becomes easier to let go of the fantasy.
So the silver lining here is that they’re not as perfect as the imaginary version you created of them. In reality, they likely have plenty of flaws and imperfections. So while it hurts to think about what could have been, remember that it’s probably for the best. After all, if they were really meant for you, things would have worked out differently.
3- Replace them with someone else:
We’ve all been there before: you meet someone new and you instantly think they’re the one. You daydream about your future together and you can’t imagine your life without them. But then, for whatever reason, it doesn’t work out. They might not feel the same way about you or they might already be seeing someone else.
In this case, another helpful step on our list is to find someone else to crush on. It sounds counter-intuitive, but replacing one crush with another can help take your mind off the person you’re trying to forget.
It’s not very healthy, granted! But, maybe this type you’ll pick someone who you may have a chance with, and crushing on them will not be so horrible after all if they end up accepting your advances.
4- Reach out for support:
Another step on our list is not to be afraid to talk about your feelings with a trusted friend or family member. Talking about what you’re going through can help you to put it into perspective and start to move on.
Finding a loved one that can provide good companionship can help take your mind off things and give you a fresh perspective. Don’t be afraid to lean on your loved ones during this tough time.
This could even be a gym buddy or your best friend or whoever is kind, free, and available to be going places with you and growing a new friendship. Just make sure it’s someone you don’t risk developing a crush for or a new obsession with!
5- Focus on other things:
There’s no denying that getting over someone is tough; even if you never actually dated them. Maybe you had a crush on them for years, or maybe you just recently developed feelings, but either way, it can be difficult to move on. The last step on our list to help you get over this type of infatuation or silly crush is to distract yourself with other things.
Maybe you could pick up a new hobby, or set new goals for yourself to achieve on a professional level. It’s also important to remember that there are other people out there who would love to date you. Getting over someone may take some time, but eventually, you’ll find someone new who makes you forget all about the one that got away.
Alternatively, we strongly recommend that you check this amazing article on how to stop romanticizing someone because that’s probably what you’re doing, if you like someone this much, and you never dated them. So go ahead and check it out!