An increasing number of people are living with someone for a significant period of time before they officially marry them, leading to some calling it “living together” instead or “cohabitation”.
As more people move in with partners, we are seeing the rise of “cohabitation” as an option. Simply put, cohabitation means living together without getting married or having children together.
The decision to move in with a partner can be a difficult one. It can also be very rewarding since you have found someone who loves and accepts you for who you are.
When it comes to moving in with your partner or live-in partner, there are many things to consider and get used to before the big day. These include financial planning, work-life balance, and how your friends and family will react. Sometimes, we rush to move in and don’t consider all aspects until it all turns into a nightmare.
This new trend is taking the romantic relationship to a whole new level, but there’s no good data on how this plays out in the world. All we know is that sometimes people move in together but once the excitement of the first few weeks wears off, they may regret the decision.
Why living with your partner may not work:
When moving in with your partner, you will have to adapt to the new living arrangement as well as tolerate some things that may not be ideal.
Your partner may not always be perfect and they might upset you or make you uncomfortable. But no relationship is perfect and especially if you’re used to living alone, and didn’t have to tolerate another person sharing your living space with you for a long time.
There is no such thing as a perfect relationship but there are ways to make it more tolerable, more enjoyable, and more fulfilling for all involved. However, sometimes living with one another just doesn’t seem to work. That’s okay and doesn’t always mean that you’re not made for one another.
Ways of moving out but not breaking up:
Moving in with your partner is an important decision. Before moving in you should make sure that you can tolerate each other’s habits and preferences to avoid unnecessary friction.
If you find out that you cannot stand your partner’s habits, lack of hygiene, lifestyle, or routine. Then it is still okay to want to find a way to get your freedom and space back by rectifying your decision and moving out quickly. However, how do you do that without offending them?
Below, are listed a couple of ways to leave without offending your partner, if you’re uncomfortable living with them.
1. The Up-and-Run Method:
You pack up all your stuff, leave for a month or two without getting into too many arguments or give them the time to dissuade you from going. You say you’re gonna be back soon and just need time to work hard this month or two.
You can choose to come back when you are both ready to commit to the relationship. You can give yourself time to weigh the pros and cons away from your partner and with clarity of mind, before committing to living together again.
2. The Trail Method:
You agree to take a break from living together for a while and then start living together again after a few weeks or months have passed by.
This way, you are able to see the difference between when you’re with each other and when you’re not. You also see whether it’s worth sticking around or prefer to have your own space, before making a well-informed decision this time.
If your partner refuses to let you go:
If your partner refuses to let you go then it is important that you clarify your intentions. If you have been fighting and arguing a lot since you started living together then it is important to tell your partner that you care about them a lot and that you’re worried about your relationship if you live together.
Another possibility is to explain that you may want to move to the next stage of the relationship soon and need space to decide properly if it’s the right thing to do. Tell them that you’ll take a final decision about committing or marriage after you try to see how it is to live separately. Only say this if it’s true though, as it could cause more issues than anything else if it’s insincere.
It is very important to keep a promise. So, make sure that you only imply or make a promise if you can keep it.
On the other hand, if you’re genuinely doubtful about the relationship and don’t know if you’ll end up staying or not with your partner, then it is important that you share your thoughts with them. In this case, it’s important that you clarify that you’re moving out to evaluate the situation from a distant and different point of view and that you need space and time.
However, If moving out is the first stage of breaking up for you, then again: why do you care about not hurting their feelings or moving out in a discreet way without issues ?!
Bottom line:
Moving in with your significant other could be a lovely experience. It can also be a nightmare, fraught with potential for hurt feelings and resentful behavior. The decision to move in together is not always easy, but it can be worth the risk if you know how to make it work.
Moving in together can help bring happiness into a relationship, but it’s important that both partners are excited about the decision so there aren’t any regrets later on down the road.