It’s not uncommon for relationships to hit a rough patch. If you’re having trouble in your relationship, it may be time to start fresh.
Keep in mind though that starting a new relationship over is always a bit risky because you never know if it will work, but it still requires so much effort and time. So it’s important to make sure you’re both ready and willing to try to make things work once more.
If you’re both committed to giving yourselves a real second chance, then there’s no reason why you can’t have a successful second go at your relationship. Here are a few tips to help you make that possible and on how to start a relationship over:
How to start a relationship over in 5 steps?
1. Talk about what’s not working:
It’s important, to be honest with each other about what isn’t working in the relationship, in the first place. This can be a difficult conversation, but it’s necessary if you want to move forward.
If you’re unhappy with the way things are going, it’s important to communicate that to your partner. This can look like you’re nagging or complaining and affect your connection in a bad way unless you know how to go about it. Hold your partner’s hand, be gentle, sit them down, and express how much you love them and how you have a few suggestions to make to improve the relationship. If you do it the right way, they may be more open to listening rather than getting defensive from the get-go.
Don’t hesitate to talk about what you’re hoping to change. Also, don’t sugarcoat things, just because you’re gonna be gentle and kind about it, doesn’t mean you will not be truthful. And do your best to listen to your partner’s perspective too.
It’s important, to be very open and sincere about the situation and about what you’re feeling and why you think the relationship is struggling. Once you’ve had a chance to air your grievances, If you can’t come to an agreement, it may be time to move on.
2. Set some ground rules:
Once you’ve talked about what isn’t working, it’s time to set some ground rules for the future.
This may include things like communicating more effectively or spending more time together. Decide on things like how often you’ll communicate, what kind of disrespectful words or manners are off-limits, and whether or not you’ll take a break from seeing each other for a while.
While you set these new boundaries and rules, be patient with each other as you both learn how to navigate this new phase of your relationship. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither is a strong relationship.
3. Make a plan:
A relationship is like anything else in life: it takes work to make it successful. Sit down and make a plan for how you’re going to make your relationship work. Be sure to include both short-term and long-term goals.
What do you want to achieve? Do you just want to make things work for the short term and have fun, or are you looking for a long-term fix and a more serious commitment? Once you know what you want, you can start to make a plan.
If you’re just looking for a short-term fix, then you might only need to make some small changes. However, if you’re hoping for a long-term relationship, then you’ll need to put in some work. But don’t worry, it’ll be worth it in the end. So make a plan, and get started on your journey sooner rather than later.
4. Take action:
It’s not enough to just talk about making changes; you need to actually take action and make those changes happen. This may mean making an effort and going out of your way to meet your share of duties and new role. Obviously, it should all be done while being more communicative with one another.
If you’re looking to take your relationship to the next level, it’s important to take action and act accordingly. You need to put your relationship first and make real efforts to make things work. Sometimes, it may mean making some tough decisions, but if you’re truly committed to each other, it’ll all fall into place in the long run.
Whatever you do remember that talk is cheap and so is wishful thinking; instead actions, real efforts, and small gestures are the way to go!
5. Seek help if needed:
Seeking external help is the final step and it could mean talking to a therapist or counselor to work through any issues that may be holding you back. It’s important to take some time for introspection and really think about what you want from a relationship, in general, not that specific one.
What qualities are most important to you? What kind of relationship do you ultimately want to be in?
Once you have a good sense of what you’re looking for, it will be easier to decide whether to work towards making your current one better or find someone else who meets your needs effortlessly.