Whether you’re drunk or not, there’s no excuse for texting your ex. It’s only going to lead to heartache and pain. You know it, we know it and everybody else knows that texting an ex is more often than not a big mistake.

So next time you find yourself reaching for your phone in the middle of the night, think about what’s really best for you and read the 5 steps below once more to remind yourself to put down the phone and go to sleep.

Tomorrow will be a new day and a better life chapter without your ex, will start soon for you, so don’t hinder the process by holding onto the past.

Why you should not text your ex in the first place:

We’ve all been there, we’ve all texted our ex when we were drunk or not, and we’ve all had that moment of weakness where we think to ourselves “what’s the harm in just sending a quick text?”.

Well, the answer is quite a bit. First of all, it shows that you’re not over them and that you’re still thinking about them, which gives them false hope that you might want to get back together.

Unless you actually want to go back together with them then it is basically just a huge waste of everyone’s time and it can even quickly turn into a toxic cycle that’s not gonna lead anywhere. And, even if you wanted to go back with your ex then texting them and bothering them with endless messages is not going to get you the result you wish for.

Plus texting your ex also makes you look weak and eager, which is not attractive. If anything, your ex will probably think that you’re just sitting in a rock waiting for them to say the word, so you can throw yourself back at them. This means that there’s no chase, challenge or thrill in winning you back, which is why they’ll just start viewing you as a desperate and thirsty person that is thirsty for them.

This may sound harsh but it’s important for us to remind you of what you lose when you send that text to your ex. It’s not that you have nothing to lose. In fact, your dignity and entire charm and attractiveness can start being questioned, if you press of a button and send that text.

Furthermore, it can start a whole argument or back-and-forth texting conversation that you really don’t want to be having. It can even turn into an argument or a blame game regarding who was at fault. So unless you’re ready for a fight that will just push your ex further, don’t send that text.

Now next time you find yourself reaching for your phone to text your ex, think about what we just explained and ask yourself if it’s really worth it. chances are, it’s not. And, to help you commit to never texting your ex again read on and find out a few steps you can follow to help you achieve that.

6 steps to never text your ex again:

1. Consider that you may just be bored:

First, consider that you may just be bored. If you’re feeling restless and have nothing else to do, texting your ex may seem like a good way to kill time. But it’s important to remember that once you start texting them, you’re opening up the door to communication. And once that happens, it’s hard to resist the urge to keep texting back and forth.

If you find yourself in this situation, try to find something else to do instead of reaching for your phone. Go for a walk, call a friend, or watch a movie. Distracting yourself will help take your mind off your ex and prevent you from impulsively sending them a text.

2. Remember that you will regret it later:

Breakups are never easy, but it’s important to remember that you’re better off without your ex. That’s why you should avoid texting them, even if you’re feeling nostalgic or lonely.

If you texted them before and it didn’t end well then you know very well that it’s only a matter of time before you regret it again, if you text them once more. More often than not, those texts will go unanswered, or you’ll receive a curt reply that makes you feel worse than you did before.

And even if your ex does respond positively, it’s only delaying the inevitable. So save yourself the heartache and resist the urge to text your ex. Trust us, you’ll be glad you did.

3. Call someone else instead quickly and without overthinking it:

One way to stop texting your ex is to call someone else instead quickly and without overthinking it. This will help you to strenghten your bond with other people and keep you from thinking about your ex all the time.

If you always pick the same person to quickly call once you catch yourself thinking about your ex then your relationship with that person could become so strong and meaningful before you know it. That person could be anyone from a parent, to a close friend or colleague. It doesn’t have to be someone you’re interested in romantically if you don’t want to jump to a new relationship so soon.

It also gives you something else to focus on and can be a healthy distraction from the negative feelings that come with every break-up. So, if you find yourself reaching for your phone to text your ex, try giving a friend or family member a call instead. It may just be the thing you need to help you move on.

4. Take the time to heal and move on:

If you’re still thinking about texting your ex, it’s time to put down the phone and give yourself a break. Clearly, you need time to heal from the breakup and move on. While it may be tempting to stay in touch, it’s important to remember that texting your ex can prevent you from moving on and enjoying your life.

So book a short trip with a friend or a spa day alone or anything that will feel like a treat and allow your mind to relax. Taking some time for yourself and doing something that makes you happy will help set your priorities right and help you re-focus on your future goals.

Once you’ve taken the time to heal, you’ll be able to move on and enjoy your life without your ex and their toxicity and mistakes. Because let’s be honest an ex is always an ex for a good valid reason, or did you forgoet that?

5. Delete your ex’s phone number:

Another way to stop yourself from texting your ex is to delete their contact information from your phone. This may seem like a drastic measure, but it can be very effective.

If you don’t have their number saved, you’ll be less likely to text them on a whim. Plus, it will give you some space and time to really think about whether or not you want to get back in touch with them.

By taking such an extreme measure, you can avoid regrettable texts and move on with your life.

6. Turn the page and realize that life goes on without your ex:

In due time, you’ll finally starting to get over your ex. You’ll stop listening to sad songs and chacking their photos on social media. You will meet new people and your routine and circle of friends may change. Everything will be different and you will like and adapt to the change. Soon enough your ex will be nothing but a bitter and distant memory.

And before you know it you will not feel the need to find their contact number and start typing a text whenever you see a funny meme or think of something you know they’d like. In fact, you’ll rarely ever catch yourself thinking about them or remembering what they like. It may sound sad now but it won’t be because you’ll have other people in your life that you would’ve learned more about and that respect and value you more than your ex ever did.

So if you feel that you’re somehow still connected to your ex despite having broken up; then all it could be is loneliness or another silly reason rather than love. Every time you text your ex, you’re giving them a chance to reel you back in. So the right thing to do is to keep them away to help yourself heal. And, don’t even consider staying under the same roof with someone you broken up with or even staying friends.

Remember that exes come back often when they sense that we’re happy again or moving on, so don’t leave any door or window open that they may try to sneak back in from. Block them everywhere and you will be able to focus on moving on and having a better lfie without them and their problems.