It can be nerve-wracking to tell a girl you like her, but if you’re texting. However, you can take your time to think about what you want to say if it’s done over text.
Admitting you like someone over text is easier than face-to-face. You don’t have to worry about blushing or saying something embarrassing. The girl can’t see your face, so she can’t understand what you’re thinking, or how nerve-wracking it can be for you to muster up the courage needed to take this step.
This way, you’re in control of the situation. Plus, you don’t have to worry about having an awkward conversation in person. So how can you tell a girl you like her by text?
5 steps to tell a girl you like her over text:
1- Ease your way in:
Start by complimenting her on something specific, like her sense of humor or her style. Then, gradually ramp up the flirting by making jokes or playfully teasing her.
So try to ease your way in by starting off with a simple compliment or two. If she responds positively, you can start to flirt a little bit. Just be sure not to come on too strong, you don’t want to scare her off! If she seems uninterested, it’s probably best to back off and save yourself the embarrassment.
At the end of the day, it’s always better to test the waters and see if she’s open to some playful teasing or not. That way you can gauge her reaction more accurately and respond accordingly.
2- Tell her directly:
Once you’ve built up a rapport, you can directly tell her that you like her. Be sure to end on a positive note, regardless of how she responds.
While it’s definitely not easy to tell a girl you like her even if it’s just over text, it’s also important to be direct. No need to beat around the bush or be vague, if you like her, just tell her! This way, she’ll know exactly how you feel and can decide how she feels about you. In the end, you don’t want to start thinking that you got rejected when you’re not even sure that she understood.
At least, if you’re gonna get rejected then may as well do things properly and get your message conveyed clearly. Obviously, there’s always the possibility of rejection when you put yourself out there be it over text or in person, but that’s a risk you’ll have to take if you want things to progress. So go for it! Tell her how you feel and see what happens. Who knows? She might just feel the same way about you.
3- Make sure you get a clear answer:
There’s no denying that some people are better at flirting than others. If you’re someone who’s not sure how to flirt back when someone texts you, or you get nervous and tongue-tied around someone you like, then you can relate and understand if she has a similar reaction. What you can see as rejection can sometimes be just clumsiness or doubts about what to say or how to act.
That being said, some people might actually want to reject someone but could be worried about hurting that person’s feelings so they may be vague about it too. That’s why it’s important to be able to differentiate between the two scenarios. This is why you have to make sure you get a clear answer.
Don’t accept answers that are not white or black, or that are supposed to lead you on like “let me think about it” when they never actually mention it again. Don’t let someone put you on hold forever by being relaxed and carefree about it.
If they need time to think then make sure you don’t shy away from asking them what they decided, the next day or even asking them out and telling them to judge after a first date. This could be your chance to impress her more and get a date out of the situation, whatever the outcome might be!
4- Don’t force things:
In the end, it’s important to remember that you can’t force things to work out. If she’s not interested, then you should take it like a champ. Ultimately, she has to be willing to invest in the relationship, if she’s not ready or doesn’t have feelings for you, then again it’s just not going to work even if you drag her somehow into a relationship that she never really wanted to be in.
The key is to keep it casual and relaxed throughout the entire conversation. Don’t build up the situation in your head too much; just tell her how you feel in a matter-of-fact way and let her respond however she wants. If she’s into you, great; if she’s not, then at least you know where you stand.
So, the last thing you want to do is to try to “convince” her otherwise when she already doesn’t think there’s any potential for the two of you to work out. Either way, it’ll be a lot less painful if she takes a no-nonsense approach as it will stop you from building up all sorts of expectations only to have them come crashing down around you.
5- Thank her for her honesty and offer your friendship if you want to:
Thank her for being honest with you and let her know that you’re still interested in getting to know her better or as a friend, even if she’s not interested. If you got rejected, you may be too heartbroken to think of what to say to make it out like you’re open for friendship.
That’s why we have written a text for you as an example. It is better to take a break from talking for a few days, to give her space and reflect on whether you really want to be friends or would rather not; before you send it. The text should look like this:
“Hey, it’s been a while since we talked. I just wanted to say thanks for being honest with me about how you feel. I really appreciate it. I’m sorry things didn’t work out between us, but I’m happy to still be friends if that’s something you’re interested in. Let me know if you ever need anything. Take care!”
Be sure that you’re not setting yourself up for getting led on or staying in the friendzone forever though. If you decide to offer your friendship to a girl that rejected your feelings for her, then you have to be sure about your decision.
With a little practice, it’ll be easy to tell any girl you like her over text!