If you’ve been playing hard to get but the person you’re interested in seems to have lost interest, it can be confusing and frustrating. You may be wondering what you did wrong or what you could have done differently.
In today’s article, we give you a few possible reasons why playing hard to get didn’t work quite well on this specific person.
Reasons why they lost interest after you played hard to get:
1- Not everyone likes this approach:
When this happens, it’s important to remember that not everyone responds well to the same approach. Some people are more interested in a chase, while others prefer a more direct approach. If you’re not sure what the person you’re interested in wants, it can be helpful to figure out from their personality, and body language and by talking to them to get to know them better directly.
While it’s possible that you simply misread the situation, it’s also possible that they don’t want to engage in a chase and game, so they just moved on. If they have, there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s important to remember that not every person you’re interested in will feel the same way.
Keep your options open and don’t get too discouraged if things don’t work out the way you’d hoped. With a little persistence, you’ll find someone who’s a better match for what you’re looking for.
2- They were never interested enough:
You thought they were the one. You played hard to get and they gave up. But maybe it’s for the best. One of the reasons people give up quickly is if they just don’t think you’re worth the wait or the challenge. So be sure that if they were truly interested, they would’ve fought for you or tried harder.
If they gave up too easily then maybe they don’t like you all that much to engage in these games and chase after you or court you. That should tell you everything you need to know about how much they were actually interested in you.
Sure, playing hard to get may not have been the smartest move on your part, but at least when you do you know if they were truly interested in case they stick around. So, if instead, they proved that you weren’t worth their time and moved on, that’s okay. You deserve better than this.
Maybe they didn’t see your worth or they simply lost interest along the way. In the end, a person like this is not worth your time and energy trying to figure out their reason. Just be glad it didn’t work out and move on. There’s someone out there who will appreciate you for who you are and they’ll never give up on you. Keep your head up and keep moving forward.
3- They thought you were not interested:
So you’re not sure if it’s a game or what, but maybe you’ve noticed that sometimes when you act like you’re not interested in someone, they’ll be more interested in you. You might not have done it on purpose at first, but it just sort of happened.
But then maybe you thought you’d try it on purpose this time on someone else to challenge them and get them intrigued. But then it doesn’t seem to have worked too well and they give up because they thought you’re not interested? And maybe that’s the exact moment when you realize that you were actually interested in them after all. It’s a confusing cycle, but that’s just how things work sometimes.
In this case, keep in mind that the most natural reaction to having played hard to get for a little longer than you should’ve; would be that a person gives up after a few attempts. So do not blame them for not trying harder or stalking you, if they just walk away. After all, the ideal scenario when we’re truly not interested in someone is to just have them move on quickly and leave us alone.
4- You played hard to get for too long:
If you played hard to get for too long, then there’s a high chance that the other person may give up. They may get tired of the mind games and decide that they don’t like playing them. After all, there are many people who just find this type of strategy and game unnerving and pointless. So if they truly thought you weren’t that interested at first but they got your attention somehow; it might be interesting for them.
However, if they understood that you were just playing hard to get then it might become a little too difficult for them to stay engaged.
Some people think that if you want something, you have to go for it. However, we would argue that this is a bad idea too. Check our article out later on a few scenarios of life where you should not always be very clear and direct in going after what you want.
In the end, it’s true that you can’t just sit back and hope that things will happen either. If the situation is right and there’s no obstacle or any reason why you shouldn’t go after a person then try to show interest too after some time. Try to put in some effort too and know how to keep the ball rolling, You have to make things happen, not constantly ignore someone, and hope they’d stay on your back.